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I'm a 12 year old girl and have a crush on a girl at my school. Is this normal? I'm not homophobic but I'm scared because I think I'm bisexual and I'm only 12.


Having a crush on someone either of the same sex or opposite sex is really normal and lots of 12 year olds have them. 

Working out whether you are gay, bisexual or heterosexual is an individual thing. Some people find it helpful to label themselves as, for example, bisexual, and others like to see themselves as fluid. That is, that they don't fit into one category but that they are attracted to the person not the gender.

If you feel you are attracted to both male and females then that may mean you are bisexual. Being bisexual is not a one size fits all thing. All heterosexual (attracted to the opposite sex), homosexual (attracted to the same sex) and bisexual (attracted to both sexes) people are individuals and have different personalities, families and life experiences. You are an individual too and your sexuality is only part of what makes you who you are.

That’s why it would be great for you to chat to a counsellor at one of the places below about your individual experiences, thoughts and feelings.

You can do this for free and confidentially, which means the person won't tell anyone what you talk about unless they are worried about your safety with one of the places I have listed below. It can either be over a free phone call or by email if you prefer. There are also websites that have lots of information on being same-sex attracted.

The websites below also have some great information and resources.

It’s really important to talk to someone and get support. You’re not alone and thousands of young people are going through something similar to you. There isn't anything wrong with you and you don't have to go through this by yourself. I can understand it is scary because we all feel scared when there is something new or different we are feeling. That's why it's great to chat and get support.

We also provide counselling for children, young people and families in our centres in Melbourne and regional Victoria. These include Ballarat, Boronia, Cranbourne, Greensborough, Kew, Sunshine, Shepparton and Traralgon.

You can find out more about our counselling service on the connectEDspace website here.

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