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How do I help someone, who doesn't want it, but needs it?


It can be very frustrating, worrying and even scary to be close to somebody who needs help and won't accept it. How you respond to this depends on the actual situation.

For example, if you feel that the person is at risk (by either talking about wanting to hurt themselves, hurt someone else or is being hurt by someone), then it’s a good idea to talk to a trusted adult about what you are noticing. Sometimes people feel that they are betraying the other person’s confidences by talking to someone else about the issue, however, in the end it’s always better to talk to an adult if something is really upsetting or worrying you. The benefit of this approach is that you’re sharing or even handing over the worrying feelings to an adult and that you’re not dealing with this on your own.

If the person you refer to is not at risk or in danger, then you might want to consider suggesting the person gets some help. I’ve listed some great services below that provide lots of information and offer confidential telephone support. They have very friendly people on the end of the phone who would love to talk to you or the person you’re worried about. Many of these services also have chat support services. If the person you’re talking about is a young person, a school counsellor or teacher can be a good place to start .

We also provide counselling for children, young people and families in our centres in Melbourne and regional Victoria. These include Ballarat, Boronia, Cranbourne, Greensborough, Kew, Sunshine, Shepparton and Traralgon. You can find out more about our counselling service here.

It’s really great that you have reached out to us and we hope that this information is helpful. 

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stress and mental health